Husband Do’s and Don’ts

A popular list of instructions for husbands of Mary Kay consultants…

In Mary Kay, there is much talk about whether or not your  husband is supportive. Generally, supportive means he doesn’t have any say in how you spend your family’s money (inventory, events, other MK junk), how much you’re away from home (meetings, events, pep rallies, appointments), or anything else related to your “business.”

Basically, the MK business is none of his business, except when he’s supposed to show up, shut up, put up (money), and smile.

Tons of so-called supportive husbands attend seminar every year, but I’ve got to wonder how many have really seen through the pink fog but just don’t know how to break it to their wives.

Here are the Do’s and Don’ts of a Mary Kay Husband:

DO:

  • Love your wife. Everything else will follow.
  • Encourage her to use the time available for her business when an appointment cancels. For instance, she could book selling appointments, do customer service calls, invite guests to her unit meeting.
  • Write her notes, telling her how proud you are of her.
  • Acknowledge her accomplishments.
  • Keep her motivated by offering dinner, movie or time alone without the children, if she meets her weekly goals.
  • Help her set family and business goals. Dream with her.
  • Read company-related material and compliment her when you see her name in print.
  • Tell your friends how well she’s doing.
  • Strategize with her. Two minds are better than one.

DON’T:

  • Say any of these things: “Burn the Starter Kit.” “Quit!” “How do you put up with this?”
  • Point out the frustrating parts of her business. She already knows them.
  • Ignore her accomplishments. She works for your praise.
  • Be selfish. Share your time with her by doing things that will allow her to work her business.
  • Say, “You’ll never accomplish that.” Think out of your comfort zone. If her goals don’t sound far-fetched, she isn’t reaching far enough.
  • Ask how much she sold. She’ll tell you, if it’s good news.
  • Listen to negative comments from your friends, family or colleagues about her business.
  • Ask why her business things aren’t in perfect order.

5 Comments

  1. Scrib

    I love how this list tells husbands to tell their friends how well their wives are doing in their MK businesses, then tells them not to ever ask how much their wives actually sold. Doublespeak much?

    Also, the “advice” of “Don’t be selfish. Share your time with her by doing things that will allow her to work her business” is absolutely gut-wrenching.

    If the husband has to share his time with her by doing things that will allow her to work her business, who’s REALLY the selfish one?

  2. J

    There’s a story I’ve heard more than once…..no names ever…..”a woman joined MK, sold, did well, recruited…decides to build, ends up recruiting more, doing more parties….then gets really into it and goes On Target for car and then into DIQ…..but throughout she was complaining to her husband when things went wrong like someone not joining, production not met, people quitting, not buying. Sometime after she submitted DIQ card, she complained again and then left for Fall Advance or Career Conference…one of those….she came back and Hubs had returned all of her product. He said ‘now they won’t stress you out anymore’.
    Then whoever is telling the story gasps (as do the listeners) and the moral is: keep Hubs in the dark, don’t tell your BEST FRIEND that you’re MARRIED to know what’s going on or how you feel, ever.

    Really?

    1. Lazy Gardens

      I call BS on this story: ” Sometime after she submitted DIQ card, she complained again and then left for Fall Advance or Career Conference…one of those….she came back and Hubs had returned all of her product.”

      There’s not enough time, and never was enough time, to ask for the return paperwork, get the paperwork, pack it up and ship it over a weekend conference or even seminar.

      ML would have IMMEDIATELY notified the recruiter and SD about the impending return as soon as the request for return was placed so they would have contacted the IBC and asked WTF?

      Nice “here’s why to lie to your husband” lie. But just another MK lie.

    1. Stacy

      It is shitty to dispose of your spouse’s property without their knowledge and agreement, regardless how you feel about said property. Just because I don’t (hypothetically) like my husband’s Xbox because he spends money on games and more time on it than with me does not give me the right to return said Xbox to the store, does it now?

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