Dear Mary Kay sales directors… This is a list of things you have no right to do or say to consultants, potential recruits, or anyone else involved with Mary Kay.
- It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than permission. Lying to one’s husband is not okay. It is especially not okay when it comes to spending money on inventory, starting a Mary Kay “business,” going to an out-of-town event, or any other part of Mary Kay. Marriage is a partnership, and partners share information with one another. They do not purposely withhold information, especially when they know it would be of concern to the spouse.
- You can use the “husband unawareness plan.” (Didn’t I just mention lying?)
- If you have a “bad class” don’t tell your husband. He will want you to quit. Tell him only the good news, and show him the money. (Yes, that’s more lying to the husband. Bad, bad, bad.)
And then there are all the lies related to selling the products and recruiting. You know they’re lies, so you have no right to say them. Oh, and all those statements about helping her? You’re only planning to “help” as long as she’s ordering, and the real help only includes encouraging her to order more and recruit more.
- You could find the money to do ____ if you really wanted to.
- Of course you have $____ to go to _____. (No, director, you don’t know that she has any money available to do anything. Quit assuming things about her finances.)
- You could sell more MK products if you really wanted to. (Yeah, cuz we really don’t want to sell them. We didn’t really try.)
- If you need more money, book another class. You decide how much you want to make. You can control your own income. (Not really!)
How the director will work with you (or not).
- I work with decision makers. Do you really need your husband’s permission? (Oops, there she goes interfering with the spouse again.)
- Mary Kay may not be for you, but how will you know if you don’t give it a try? (Please don’t say this, because you know that when she fails and quits like the other 99% of women, you’re going to call her a lazy loser. )
- I do life with my consultants. I intend to spend the rest of my working life with you. (But only as long as they’re ordering, and you know it.)
- I will match my time with yours. If you are working (ordering) I am yours. If you are not, I will not be spending time with you.
- Same with meeting attendance. Those who go up show up. (Moving up in MLM really has nothing to do with attendance, other than the fact that the brainwashing sessions will keep you on the hamster wheel longer than necessary.)
- My job is to help you be successful. (No, your job is to help her order more.)
- I will earn your red jacket for you, I will help you earn your car, and I will let you become a director. (Really, you’ll just help her use her credit cards.)
And then the lies about Mary Kay priorities and intentions. You know you don’t really mean these!
- Mary Kay women are different, we are energy-givers not energy suckers. (Unless you’re begging for month-end production when you dial for dollars?)
- Wouldn’t it be nice to not have to ignore your values and instead be able to put faith first, family second and your business third?
This list could go on forever…