Written by Raisinberry
For the longest time I anguished over how I ever got in this Mary Kay mess. I finally got crystal clear clarity concerning one of the most evil and deceptive “attractions” that Mary Kay Cosmetics uses to draw unsuspecting prey into the web.
It has been said that an obvious lie isn’t effective. To be a great lie it has to be surrounded by two layers of truth. Hide the lie in the middle like a great big pink Oreo and you have a “cookie” that’s irresistible as well as effective.
“The Pink Bubble” is described as the “Mary Kay way” of living positively in a negative world. It requires all negative thoughts and deeds to be held captive to a greater purpose of becoming all you can be and achieving more, while following the Golden Rule and being a “go-give” person. It’s a truth that is pursued by all who wish to live “rightly”. And it is sold to the typical MK consultant as only being available to us in the Mary Kay world. All other worlds fall miserably short of this ideal. Once in, why would you opt for living “outside” in a very Un-PINK world? This is the top lid of the Oreo, the first truth women long for.
Another truth of being a woman is a deep-seated desire to matter and be appreciated. We long to be secure more than men do, and we long to have admiration and love for the entire length of the journey. Secretly, we fear abandonment, of not “belonging” to something or someone (according to marriage counselor, Dr. Larry Crabb). This is the second truth that makes up the bottom lid of the pink Oreo. That’s why the Mary Kay message resonates with so many of us. Many, many needs are met in one little pink cookie.
If we twist off the lids and look inside this “pink bubble” cookie, we find sandwiched between two great truths, is the fluffy filling – the tasty delectable sugary whipped up air that is designed to satisfy the hunger. The “filling” is a non nutritional mix, that while being sugary addictive, offers no real substance to meet our needs. It just looks and feels like it might. The pink filling hidden inside our deepest desires and deepest fears is a deception of phony ingredients whipped up to be sweetly palatable while deceiving us into believing we are being “filled”.
Remember how you felt at Seminar in Dallas, watching the husband take the microphone and with teary eyes tell the Mary Kay world how proud he is of his wife? Didn’t we swoon? The teary eyed woman on the throne being admired by her husband has credit card debt to sink a battleship…and probably debt the husband doesn’t even know about.
The Directors named number 1,2, or 3 have hidden from everyone their clandestine behavior, “creative” financing, or recruiting abuses. The National pushing to hit “inner circle” have allowed the frontloading of women whom they realize will never possess the sales skill to make money at this, but they look away unethically rationalizing “never prejudge”.
In the name of living in the pink bubble is a crafted demand to never “talk negatively” and thereby never find out that the whole thing is a hoax and deception of world wide proportion. The consultant is the consumer, glad to get 50% off thousands of dollars worth of products that she will never recoup in retail sales profit soon enough, to beat the next product upgrade.
The top lid (wanting to believe in a grand great positive world) is squeezed down over the pink fluffy filling ( played out in technicolor for us over and over at Seminar) and attached to the bottom lid, Our fears of abandonment, our need of admiration and security.
Mary Kay Cosmetics masterfully orchestrates and energizes the longing (husband and family admiration for achievement) and energizes the fear (what if you can’t rely on your husband?, who will pay for colleges?, what if you are alone?, if you quit you lose, safety is in the pink bubble, if you make $50,000 a month your worries are gone….)
The reason why you couldn’t pick off the lie is it had such a nice disguise. The PMA mantra forbids anyone to talk about the mess they are in while pretending to be successful. Sandwiching the pink fluff, with the draw of our deepest fears and deepest needs being met in one cookie, was just too enticing to refuse! Who doesn’t love Oreos?
It is funny however, that in all our “canned” scripts, rebuttals and answers to the outside world- to defend our Pink Bubble world, their was a glaring truth, no doubt left there by God to stand in testimony to the day we woke up and came out from under the deception.
Why didn’t it occur to any of us, that inside a bubble…any color bubble, is nothing but AIR.