Overcoming Your Husband’s Objections

19104045If your husband dares to question the Mary Kay opportunity, your recruiter wants you to be ready with these answers. Mary Kay doesn’t want something as silly as your husband’s logic to stand in the way of you purchasing inventory!

I feel sorry for the husbands of Mary Kay consultants. Seriously. Very sorry.

Why? Because the minute they figure out what a scam Mary Kay is (which is usually much sooner than the wife figures it out), they are called negative and unsupportive. Uh, no. They are rational, reasonable, and realists. The Mary Kay opportunity is bad, and I don’t think that the husbands should be punished for recognizing that and pointing it out to their wives.

Here is a training piece designed to help convince your husband that Mary Kay is a good opportunity and you should spend thousands on inventory.


Questions from husbands always concern the well being and success of their wives. After viewing a Consider the Possibilities Video, or attending a Mary Kay Career Guest Event, husbands are sure to have a clearer understanding of a career with Mary Kay. However, many may still have questions you should be prepared to answer. The following is a list of common questions with suggested answers:

Exactly what will my wife be doing?

She will be retailing the #1 Skin Care and Color Cosmetics products in America via teaching skin care to women. She will be self-employed in her own business. She will hold Professional Skin Care Classes for small groups of women. Based upon your wife’s personal goals, she will have the opportunity to just retail the product and earn extra money or she can choose to go into leadership with Mary Kay where she can earn the use of a FREE company car, earn a 6 figure income, go on free trips every year, and much more. Professional classes???


Where will she be working?

Your wife will have a choice of whether she wants to hold classes in your home or whether she wants to go to her hostess home. She will have no quotas or territories.

What sort of hours will my wife be expected to work?

She may set her own hours since she is in business for herself. We suggest that the two of you develop a weekly plan sheet every Sunday so you know and agree upon her work schedule. Her hours can vary depending on family plans and desired income. The more hours worked the higher her income potential.

My wife knows very little about sales and teaching skin care. How can she expect to be successful?

There is a thorough educational program for all new Mary Kay Consultants. I will train her in the basic skin care and make up techniques. She will learn all facets of her business including how to schedule classes, earn profits, manage her income, etc. at a training class held on a 1 day a week basis. Your wife’s commitment to training will be essential to her earning potential and growth in the business. You are always invited and encouraged to attend all training classes and functions.

What is in a starter kit?

Your wife’s new business tools! The showcase includes demonstration products, training materials, and literature needed to begin her business. The front of the agreement and brochure she received shows the large assortment of materials that will be included in her showcase. This is essentially all she will need to get started. In actuality she is getting approximately $3000 worth of training materials for an investment of $100 plus tax.

What is inventory and why will my wife need it?


First, inventory is not required for her business, but it is recommended to get her off to a good start. Inventory is product your wife will retail to her customers to make a profit. The showcase is only a tool. She will buy her product at a wholesale discount directly from Mary Kay Cosmetics, and will sell it to her customers at the suggested retail price (earning 50% of what ever she sells). Having her inventory on hand will aid in her business being more professional, convenient and more efficient for her.

How much inventory will she need?

There are several options, and where she starts will be something you both need to decide. Always remember that inventory is the source of profit. When you place an order with Mary Kay, you are purchasing the at wholesale prices. The wholesale price of an order is determined by a discount from the suggested retail price. This discount is 50% of the retail price, depending on the amount ordered. (Sometimes it will be 55%-60% during special promotions.) Everyone in Mary Kay, both Consultants and Directors, buy directly from the company at the same discount. The discount structure has just been simplified. Any order for at least $400.00 suggested retail qualifies for the maximum discount of 50%. For example, you pay $200.00 wholesale for products you can sell for $400 retail. By always making your orders a minimum of $200 wholesale, you receive the full 50% discount.


The key to consistent earnings is restocking inventory on a consistent basis. If your wife sells $800.00 suggested retail per week, she will want to allocate about 60% of her sales to product orders. Inventory planning and control can be a joint planning area.

What amount of inventory is really best for my wife?

The two of you know your financial circumstances better than I do. We recommend that each new Consultant begin with a product inventory and reinvest her profits until she has at least reached a full store inventory status at $3,600.00 I recommend that every consultant start with a full store inventory. This inventory level will give your wife an adequate variety and number of products to service her customers, and puts her at immediate profit level.

We don’t have that much money in our savings account. Now what?

Few people have that much money readily available. Even if you did have it, I wouldn’t recommend using it (as humans we are not usually disciplined enough to pay ourselves back). I recommend using a credit card or bank loan. Most businesses begin on borrowed capital (it is always better to use someone else’s money to start your own business, besides that’s what banks are for anyway!) Profits from sales can be used to pay off the charge.

That sounds like a lot of money. Frankly, what is in it for you?

It’s worth the same to me if your wife starts off with full store inventory or if she started at a lower level and worked her way up to profit level. I earn a commission check from Mary Kay’s profit center in Dallas based upon your wife’s wholesale purchases from the company along with my other business associates and unit members. What’s great and most important is that your wife can earn the same commissions.

With all this training and all this money, I am a little afraid of the changes I may see in my wife.

Part of Mary Kay’s philosophy is a strong belief in priorities, God first, family second and career third. With your encouragement and continued moral support, your wife can only succeed. Most of us in Mary Kay are wives. That doesn’t stop. It just gets better!

Okay, the part about $3,000 worth of training materials in the starter kit made me laugh out loud. And inventory is recommended for a “good start.” Notice how they say “why will my wife need it,” basically assuming that she is going to get inventory.

I also like that idea that having inventory is the “source of profit.” Ummmm, no. Selling products is the source of profit, and having inventory is tying up money in dust-collectors. And who knew that you get consistent earnings if you regularly re-stock inventory? I thought it was by consistently recruiting and frontloading!

And don’t you love how they pretend they don’t care if she places a $3,600 order or not? Of course they care, because they get their commission up front. The recruiter doesn’t want your wife to wait to order because if she does, she will find out how difficult it is to sell this stuff, and she won’t place that order. There’s very low demand for Mary Kay products, and the fact is that if your wife doesn’t order up front, she won’t ever order very much because it’s next to impossible to sell.


  1. Momster

    This is a double-slam. First, she’s commenting on the relationship between the recruit and her husband, as if it’s strange or disempowering to discuss financial issues with a spouse. Then, she’s bragging that she can afford a $300 purse.

    “See what a strong, financially independent woman I am?” NOT

    1. raisinberry

      Yea, Momster, plus she’s subtlety diminishing the target, that She doesn’t need permission to buy that purse. Believe it- there is an under the radar “dis”, to make the target feel like she should be able to spend whatever she wants… too bad she is not a MK consultant… so right from the getgo, the husband/wife bond is made suspect.

  2. Tigger

    The line about the wife ‘choosing’ to do the classes in her home or in the host’s home is disgusting. She’ll do those classes in a back alley if that’s all she can get. I hated the work it took to get a class to hold. It was demeaning. Most of us quit when we realized we were to the point of selling our souls to hold a class. No money is worth that!

    I’ll figure out 102 ways to cook burger, if need be.

  3. cindylu

    Thanks to PT for making me realize I wasn’t the only one that went through the pink fog of indoctrination. I got sick. Not one MK Director or consultant cared. Corporate didn’t care either. I had no choice but return all my product but best decision I ever made. My husband disliked my SD and MK. He tried to make me realize what nonsense it all was. He wrote me a letter indicating the pros and cons of this so call MK career. Yes, MK herself advised us to lie to our husbands how nice. No wonder so many marriages and families suffered due to the selfishness of a business encouraging us to buy inventory before we even had any customers. Of course buying inventory and recruiting was how they bilked hundreds of consultants out of their hard earned cash and put families in debt for their own selfish purposes. Glad that is over with.

  4. mkdropout9729

    I feel so bad for you men who have to try and hold your relationships together while your wives find their way out of the fog. I just pray you hold on to who your wife was before this MK and remember that hopefully in time and maybe with the help of this site she will come out and be who you remember!

  5. Chase Williams

    Oh wow- this hits the nail on the head. This is more elaborate than what we were told to tell the husbands. If I had to talk to a husband, which always terrified me, whenever they would ask “What comes in the starter kit?” the accepted answer that I was brainwashed into saying was “Everything your wife needs to be a success”. But that’s not true. It’s quite the opposite. Whenever I read manipulative emails like this, I hear the voice of my former SSD in my head. Unfortunately, these women who are spreading these lies and exaggerations have no idea that they’re doing so half the time because of how deep inside the pink they are.

  6. Ana Lopez

    Me gustaría que abrieran más los ojos a la gente y se dejaran de tanto engaño; se creen que es la maravilla y es puro coco wash… ahora respecto a los maridos como a ellas les lavan el cerebro de que son lo maximo y no hay obstáculos, hacen menos al marido y no lo valoran lo suficiente. Pero eso sí en el viaje de MK en el que tmb dan dinero dan un boleto de avión para el esposo. wow Solo Mary Kay.

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