Former Sales Director Sees Beyond the Smoke and Mirrors

mary-kay-smoke-and-mirrorsA former Mary Kay sales director sees beyond the smoke and mirrors and shares her story with us. Can you relate?

You know…….. the more I read and hear about the leaders in this company who ultimately play on women’s hearts, minds and souls, the sadder I am. It is a shame that someone like Kathy Helou and others who are suppose to be “women of God” can continue to give women like us false hope.

The thing that saddens me most is that the MAJORITY of the women that get into this business do not have a support system at home! When you first get into Mary Kay…… you are “LOVED” by all these women that are in Mary Kay!

You are the BEST, CUTEST, MOST WONDERFUL thing since “chocolate pudding”.

You remain in their good graces until……… you aren’t making THEM any money or you decide for some reason whatever it be….. health, family, can’t stand the bullcrap anymore you are getting out…… you NEVER hear from them again.

You say to yourself, “where is my wonderful support group of Mary Kay friends and my national of all people who told me she was my friend?” Remember the one who has prayed with you and for you? Where is she? Oh, I know. She’s out there now praying with and for all those other poor unsuspecting women, kissing and ouie gooing all over them. What “CHARM” she has. If you think about it she’s like a snake charmer.

As you know, a large majority of these ladies dig themselves deeper into financial debt because they are told to “get a credit card, get a second mortgage, do what ever it takes to “buy” product”, they become more unstable mentally because they feel like failures when they don’t succeed at this “can’t win” dead end DREAM!

I got into Mary Kay to “Help” women, not make their lives more stressful! I honestly thought that God was opening this door for me and I think he did give me blessings by leading me to many of the truly wonderful women I’ve met that are my “Friends” no matter what.

Hard work is not a stranger to me but Mary Kay is the hardest job MENTALLY I have ever attempted, it was physically draining also, lugging around all the necessities to do whatever. I am forever so “sorry” if I have caused anyone more anguish in their lives because of my ignorance in thinking I could “Help” them by recruiting them into Mary Kay. It is a shame that alot of the leaders in Mary Kay are not what they profess to be. It is refreshing to look in the mirror and know that the women looking back at me is truly “me” and not some Mary Kay imposter.

You can bet that now ANYTIME I hear someone talking about trying out the Mary Kay lifestyle, I tell them to RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN and don’t stop. Birds of a feather flock together!!! That’s what I’ve always said. If it walks like a duck….talks likes a duck…..then it is a QUACKER!!!


  1. Out of the Pink

    Thanks for sharing. Absolutely right! I got out of Mary Kay after a few months. (I had “invested” in inventory, attended Career Conference, and really tried Mary Kay on for size.) I told my “sisters” that it was for heath reasons that I quit. It was… as well as the many alarm bells that had rung during those short months that were confirmed and further enlightened by Pink Truth. When my Director (my new “bestie”) got wind of my sending my inventory back, she was on the phone pronto. Affirming her commitment to our “friendship” and wanting to get together “soon.” Of course I’d get together! I appreciated that she reached out! I needed a friend at that time. But I was unable to meet until later. (After my inventory was on its way back to corporate.) I haven’t heard from her since.

  2. Cindylu

    What a scary frightening mlm that turns women into conniving, desperate, obsessed recruiting machines. Using women over and over again for a company so unbalanced that sheer greed is its primary motive. The repugnant lying. The deceit, the physical and emotional toll put upon thousands of women and their families. Lugging those boxes of products in and out of our cars. Washing face clothes, cleaning out dirty trays, setting up displays. Each time, no sales. No one interested in this stupid silly pink Stepford wife business model. Women today know they are being conned. They have been conned at: Jewelry parties, Tupperware, Avon, Pampered Chef, Scentsy, Amway etc. I made friends in MK but once I got sick, not one MK woman called, visited or cared. Fake. Fake. Fake.

  3. BestDecision

    Lugging bags in to a unit meeting or an event, walking around the convention centers in heels that made my bones hurt for DAYS after, and then having to appear put together, well-rested (since we didn’t “wake up using an alarm clock”), and 100% excited about where we were are just a few examples of the physical and mental exhaustion every Director faces. It’s a performance. Actors talk about the fatigue they face when immersing themselves in a role, and MK is just like that.

    I’ve never had more emotional stress than being a Director. The ups and downs of starting over a new month or a new quarter, the constant refreshing your production on InTouch to see how things were going to end, and giving my all to Consultants and Offspring that didn’t return the favor…it was unending and unhealthy.

    And right now, it was all about getting your numbers in to qualify for Leadership Conference parties and banquets, not enjoying Christmas at all. Then, it’s all about the dip in attendance in production in January because no one is working.

    So very glad I’m out!

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