Independence Day for Mary Kay Consultants

Written by A Mary Kay Husband

As a husband of a wonderful woman who has been a Mary Kay IBC for over two decades, I have seen a lot of water flow over the dam. There has been much about this business I do not like but on the other hand, it hasn’t been entirely bad.

Once my wife realized the power in the “independent” status of her business, she was able to make huge changes that allowed her to see profit rather than deficits.

What this amounted to was a simple decision to control her own business – not to be subservient to anyone else. After the costly areas of operating were identified as non essential, she made changes and cut out all non profitable activities. She concentrated only on activities that were cost effective. She eliminated the non productive and costly events and dedicated herself to personal monthly profit.

When she became truly independent of her area and began making sound business judgments, her profitability exceeded the average weekly wage for our State. This, of course, was the goal. Dollars finally found their way to our wallet instead of being constantly put back in her business.

From a man’s point of view, and after reading posts on your site, I have come to the conclusion that many Mar Kay consultants have lost sight of, or never quite knew, the power of the word “independent.” The very foundation of your status in Mary Kay is contained in that one word which is within the four corners of the Mary Kay agreement you must sign.

What really jumps off the pages of pain in Pink Truth is the fact that consultants feel they’ve been treated unfairly, with manipulation, and how DEPENDENT they were for the support they didn’t get. If indeed someone has done this to you, it is a sad and sorrowful thing. I know the motivation for keeping the truth of your contracted power away from you. Simply put, it is so they can exercise pain, humiliation, and hatred toward you if you cross them, and you’ll think it’s within their power. I urge you to take back your power of the “independent” status of your business.

In these next few lines I’d like to say being familiar with any contract language is paramount before you sign any contract no matter what! Forget the driving force behind the pressure of ”you’ve gotta do it NOW“ because that always benefits the one applying the pressure, not you! Independent is an easy word in this contract but generally not emphasized for the obvious reason some in your organization want to maintain the illusion of authority and control over you.

Since your first impression of your recruiter was probably when she was dressed in a costume that made her look like a generalismo of a third world country – adorned with glittering achievement badges, you probably, and wrongfully thought she was going to be your boss, or supervisor in the chain of command. Nothing could be further from the truth, and if anyone made you believe otherwise they’ve breached the contract between you and the corporation. Keep forever in your memory cells that no one stands between Mary Kay Corporation (the contractor) and you – (the independent subcontractor).

You are not dependent, nor are you subject to control by others not affiliated with the larger controlling unit – (the contractor) and that means everybody from the rank of recruiter to the very highest NSD. If these people are not actual paid employees of the contractor, you are not required, nor do you have to rely on anything, or anyone else in the contingent for their opinions or for guidance in your conduct. The others who hold large titles prefaced with the word “Independent”, have only one function – to inspire, encourage, and excite you about the company so you will buy product, and recruit others – just like they do.

The company wants you to maintain the highest levels of integrity, honesty, and responsibility towards the company, customers, and your peers, and to hold the company harmless for any damages or misrepresentations by the independent…

This is standard language found in any sub-contract – there’s about 20 general terms and conditions on the agreement which all IBC’s have a copy of.

No matter how euphemistic the implication, or how intense the abuse is that you must be of a particular or religious affiliation, you are not bound by or committed to join in this activity either. There is absolutely nothing in the contract that stipulates this so if it’s done to you, it would violate all the laws of our land. No one is allowed to pressure you in this way. Report all instances to the corporate office-not anyone in between.

This is a serious breach for those who are insincere, and wear a false appearance of virtue or religion – although there’s absolutely nothing in the MK agreement that addresses this topic. However, legions of us have witnessed it in action. Primarily a person in an iconic position will turn a MK meeting into an outright religious revival and link the overall success of their production directly to God. This is yet another way to make you believe they have not only the authoritative power of the corporation, but the ultimate power of God over you if you don’t conform. I believe that God gave all of us special abilities, a short list of behavioral controls, and the ability to choose between right and wrong. He said there’d be a judgment day, then he moved on…

Also, as an IBC you aren’t required, nor do you rely on others for a benefit package as this is another freedom of yours to choose your own. The contractor has deemed your earnings would be reported via form 1099 as per usual in independent sub contract issues. The company literature, the agreement, etc.; all stipulate MK consultants are “Independent Contractors“ — not an employee.

I have read your posts and some of this is the most intelligent writings I have ever seen. Especially on the emotional level. Nobody does it better than you and I am just a man who cannot reach the depths of what you feel. You are the ones who have experienced the boundless humiliation, pressure, and sometimes have been ostracized by your upline. You have every right to be outraged!

Thankfully you have this site to express your own situations. My intention is to encourage all of you who are reading this site, to dance to your own drummer. Take back that which is yours. Look at your situation and make a decision in every instance that will be best for you and your family. When you feel pressure to do things you cannot afford, stand up for yourself! Don’t do it. If you have plenty of inventory, don’t order until you actually need it. Until you upline start paying your bills and expenses, you control what goes out of your wallet! Take back your power.


  1. morningstar

    With this litany, does the independent consultant have a viable business?
    Aka known as schedule C.

    Tell us in 2 decades, how far up the ladder is the independent consultant?

    What is dependent is the amount of cash pulled in by the independent consultant to make her business independent.

    You can strip the guise of emotion off the business and make the point here, but it does not change the parameters of frontloading newbies with thousands of dollars to make dependent corporate happy.

    Ryan Rogers is that you?

    Read the terms and conditions, and determine yourself if the agreement is appropriate for you. I do not have time to go line by on this post to garner the fallacies of the agreement based on the post, heck post was so boring had to give up reading this nonsense.

  2. QueenOfTheTanned

    Though the ‘generalissimo’ reference was kinda funny…all those made up awards/ribbons hanging off her nametag. I volunteered at a robotics tournament recently that had similar ribbons, like the ones we used to tout in Mary Kay…except these ribbons were very funny AND FREE!

  3. pinkpeace

    You asked for it.
    You could leave whenever you want.
    You’re choosing to be a victim.
    If only you listened to my advice, you wouldn’t be in this situation.

    Stop it, please.

    And yes, Schedule C or go away.

    1. QueenOfTheTanned

      Ummmm…..what’s a Facial Wine garden and who is Maury? The only Maury I know is Maury Povich, and I’m sure we don’t need to find out who the baby’s daddy is.

          1. BestDecision

            I think she’s saying “Davis Wiegandt”. The NSD who admitted to working 50-60 hours a week, still holds parties, and teaches omitting a product from a customer’s purchase just so you can try to recruit her later.

            And another NSD with horrific makeup choices.

          1. QueenOfTheTanned

            So is it Maury Kay or Maura Kay? You’d think they’d check their spelling before they hit the ‘post comment’ button. NDS? National Director of Scams? No Disclosing ScheduleC? Did Timmy fall in the well? What are you trying to tell us, Lassie?

            Good grief, these people…

  4. boughtandsold

    Well thank goodness I now have permission to feel angry, to make my own decisions and not feel pressured. My life has been an empty, dark room until this moment.

  5. ThisKoolAidTastesFunny

    Ohhh so THAT’S how it’s all supposed to work. Gee girls, we’ve been doing it all wrong this whole time. We just needed This Guy to pop by and pat us on our pretty, misinformed little heads and ‘splain things so’s we could understand ’em. ::Liz Lemon eye roll::

    …is this the same husband who was annoyed that he had to watch his two kids on a weeknight a couple of months ago?

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