Written by The Scribbler
Yes, you have heard this one – many potential recruits have. Oh sure, the recruiter’s not going to come right out and tell you what a Neanderthal the company thinks your hubby is; she’s going to reweave the line – as she’s been taught – into something a little silkier:
“I bet your husband is like mine in that they love us and just want us to be happy. And you know, the typical reaction is “Honey, if that’s what you want to do, go ahead, but just leave me out of it!” Now, don’t you think he trusts your judgment?” (NSD Rena Tarbet)
“Your job with your husband is to sell him on it. He doesn’t have to get it. He’s not going to get it until you go to a class and come home with $400 cash. Don’t tell your banker or your husband that you’re scared if you want them to support you in the decision.” (NSD Dawn Sweeney)
“Would you agree with me that we can pretty much get our husbands to let us do whatever we want as long as they know it is important to us?” (NSD Deanna Spillman)
“Quite honestly, we don’t usually discuss $100 decisions with our husbands, I’m sure you’ve probably gone out and bought an outfit or a pair of shoes that cost $100 and you didn’t ask your husband for permission.” (from a follow-up script)
“Your husband won’t want you to do Mary Kay? Tell your husband that you want to purchase a starter kit; then tell him that you’re interested in the business opportunity, so after you order your kit, you’d like him to come to orientation with you and get his opinion of the business.” (found on scripts on several director websites)
The last quote’s “catch” is not only disturbing, but easy to miss – can you pick it out?
We know that the potential recruit’s husband does not want her to do Mary Kay, but what happens? The potential recruit promptly disregards any input her husband had hoped to give by going ahead and purchasing the starter kit per the guidance of the recruiter! You mean to tell me that after this man’s wife blatantly disregards his input, he’s supposed to come quietly to the orientation and give his opinion of the business? It’s about as pointless as buying Grandma that nifty “Optimus Prime” voice-changer helmet for her birthday; that is, unless she’s the type that lives for stirring up the St. Cecilia’s Bingo Night crowd. Oh Grandma, you’re so much more than meets the eye!
Ladies, no truly God-centered company would encourage women to disrespect their husbands like this. At your next recruiting attempt, when you hear one of these husband-bashing lines, try throwing some water on the recruiting fire with a biblical based-quote. You don’t even have to be religious to do so – after all, since you will be addressing a representative of a supposedly godly company, it’s only logical to respond in kind with a godly reply:
“You know, Ephesians 5:33 says “…let the wife reverence her husband.” What you’re suggesting I do is not discuss the $100 investment with my hubby, correct? Wouldn’t you agree that engaging in lies of omission towards one’s husband is far from “acting reverent?” Keep your Agreement and thanks for the coffee, love – I’m off to go give my big lug a big hug.”