No One Put a Gun to Your Head!

Written by Lazy Gardens

Seven for Seven: Team Building Tactics for Wanna-Bees

Mary Kay upliners are fond of numbered lists, so here’s a list of seven proven tactics* to gain control over another person without putting a gun to her head. I mean, guns are tacky, right? And Mary Kay is against tackiness, unless it is unit prizes and those suits the upline has to buy.

TACTIC 1: Increase suggestibility and “soften up” the individual through suggestibility-increasing techniques such as: extended audio, visual, verbal, or tactile fixation drills, excessive exact repetition of routine activities, sleep restriction and/or nutritional restriction.

The goal posters, the chanted affirmations, the CDs in the car, the video tapes … it’s all softening your brain for the takeover. The busy, busy, busy scheduling, the incessant tracking of trivial data … I feel my brain turning to mush just thinking about it.

TACTIC 2: Establish control over the person’s social environment, time and sources of social support. Contact with family and friends is abridged, as is contact with persons who do not share group-approved attitudes. Economic and other dependence on the group is fostered.

Has your spouse been declared a NSP (non-supportive person)? Have you been scolded for missing a meeting? Is your life becoming all Mary Kay, all the time?

Have you been encouraged to drop old friends and hang with the Pink Predators? Have you been told to stay away from certain people because they will steal your dream?

TACTIC 3: Prohibit disconfirming information and non supporting opinions in group communication. Rules exist about permissible topics to discuss with outsiders. Communication is highly controlled. An “in-group” language is usually constructed.

Have you been told to stop watching the news because it’s “negative”? Are your questions shushed, your problems glossed over? If your spouse asks where the profits are, does your director call him a concerned husband, or a “negative influence”?

Is there a group-speak: faces, suits, red jacket, dead reds? Are there short-cut slogans to stop your thinking (thought-stopping cliches)? Do you get a steady barrage of positive emails and phone messages?

TACTIC 4: Make the person re-evaluate the most central aspects of his or her experience of self and prior conduct in negative ways. The subject is guided to reinterpret his or her life’s history and adopt a new version of causality.

I-story pimping anyone? Was your previous career as an ER nurse relegated to the trash heap as “not enriching women’s lives”? Was your work in a Fortune 500 company described as being “a slave to Corporate America”?

TACTIC 5: Create a sense of powerlessness by subjecting the person to intense and frequent actions and situations which undermine the person’s confidence in himself and his judgment.

Set impossible goals while letting them think that everyone else is achieving those goals with ease … 3x3x3, Power Starts, X whatevers in Y time. It’s all to keep you thinking that there’s a pony in that pile of pink crap: you keep hearing others shouting “found one!” from their own tunnels into the pile. You are ashamed to admit you can’t find a pony, so you act like you found one.

TACTIC 6: Create strong aversive emotional arousals in the subject by use of nonphysical punishments such as intense humiliation, loss of privilege, social isolation, social status changes, intense guilt, anxiety, manipulation and other techniques.

Have you been tossed the skunk for “stinking thinking”? Shunted off to Hall “A” because you didn’t buy enough? Left out of the Big Girls Club? Been blamed and shamed because you aren’t a team player? Had “wearing the suit” and the “strut across the stage” dangled in front of you?

TACTIC 7: Intimidate the person with the force of group-sanctioned secular psychological threats. For example, it may be suggested or implied that failure to adopt the approved attitude, belief or consequent behavior will lead to dire consequences such as economic collapse, social failure, divorce, disintegration, etc.

If your husband dies or is disabled, you will have to have Mary Kay to survive, so don’t send back that product. What would your neighbors say if the Cadillac was towed away?

*List courtesy of FACTnet


  1. raisinberry

    My goodness. Do these women really understand what they have gotten themselves into??

    I sure didn’t. If you use cult tactics, then guess what?

  2. Morningstar

    What happens is that all these tactics are subtle when you are in MK. They are real and prevalent and MK uses them to keep you in the game. I really disliked the shunning for not purchasing enough from corporate. Which is it? Are we a team (as when car is in the balance), or are we not a team such as when you get shunned from activities because you did not order enough (for the team). This thinking is truly juvenile and seriously nutz.

    Very few sales happen with this product. Do you want to become a neighborhood warehouse for MK at your expense.

    This is a wholesale buying club like costco and sams club, nothing short of that except in this buying club you get recognition or shunned depending on your buying habits.
    Want to keep the MK family rich rolling in dough- place your next order now otherwise your director will get shunned…again.

  3. Cindylu

    Subtle and then not so subtle. It’s only $100.00 for the kit. You can win a free car lol. Products fly off the shelves. Those women at Seminar actually sold tons of product. NOT. Those directors actually had that large commission check recently. Haha. You are in business for yourself: except there is NO where this company will truly let you advertise. No one tells you about the hidden costs: Suits, gas, gifts, costs for conferences, cost for weekly meeting fees and costs for really feeble training etc. You can do this part time. Ya right. Directors etc make executive income (however some directors I knew lived in crappy houses. Front loaded unsellable yellowing products in many MK consultant homes. Tons of MK sales force everywhere I went. A saturated market going on 50 years with NO progress in ways to sell. No one wants to do facials, parties or be recruited since the internet abounds with sad stories about this mlm. Dual marketing lol More like pyramid. Best of all a company that constantly changes the products at the expense of their sales force. E-bay abounds with hundreds of women trying to get rid of this over priced products. Speaking of shunning, women avoid the MK kiosk because they know it is a con. No one puts a gun to your head. They just slowly bring on the nonsense with scripted deceptive scripts that have been around for over 4 decades.

  4. Nope.Nope. Never.

    That ‘stinkin’ thinkin’ skunk is said to light hearted fun. It’s not. It’s designed to passive aggressively shut down your critical thinking and to silence you (and everyone around you). Most women laugh when that is done at the meeting – but they aren’t seeing just how something ‘innocent and fun’ is actually keeping the lie alive.

    1. pinkvictim

      The “light hearted fun” is how my wife tried to pass off the HUP. When I pointed out that deceiving/lying to your husband might actually be perceived as a legitimate sales/recruitment tactic when a experienced, 20-year SD is telling that to a young, impressionable, inexperienced 19 year-old recruit, my wife became kind of quiet and stopped trying to defend it. She knows it’s wrong, but MKrap cult indoctrination won’t allow her to criticize anything MK.

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