Are You a Mary Kay Hypocrite?

Written by Amy

Are you a hypocrite?  That is the same question I recently had to ask myself.  Since resigning my sales director position and returning all my products, I have had to do quite a bit of soul searching.

I believe it takes time to fully POP your pink bubble.  Accepting the whole truth about your Mary Kay career and about Mary Kay Inc.  is a lot to swallow.

Imagine that you are like me:  Hundreds of consultants have been in your unit, numerous DIQs, Queen’s Court of Sales, Queen’s Court of Sharing, several “free” cars.  For me to accept the truth that I quit a successful career for a fake one, that five years of my life were wasted with no retirement, that all my up-line was lying to me, that my friends were not really friends, that Mary Kay Cosmetics didn’t care about their sales force, and that I HAD BEEN LYING TO WOMEN FOR YEARS was too much to handle all at once.

I had invested my heart and SOUL in this business.  Not to mention money.   Without MK, I didn’t know who I was.  I thought I was a failure.

When I quit Mary Kay, consultants and directors I knew were bewildered.  I was a successful director.  Why would I quit?  I explained that as a new mom, I just didn’t have the time to take care of everyone in my unit.  Nor did I have the time it takes to be a “Top Director.”

The truth is that I really didn’t have more than 20 hours a week for my MK business.  I didn’t want to put my children in daycare just so I could work full time.  (Thank God I didn’t compromise on that.)  I wanted so badly to be a “Top Director” and knew that it took a commitment of 40+ hours a week.  I also believed that Top Directors were the ones “making the real money.”   This is what I truly believed at the time.  I had full intentions of one day becoming a sales director again.  I loved Mary Kay and believed in it with all my heart.

Then one day, I crunched the numbers.  I was amazed when I realized the truth.  On average, a sales director spends approximately 40% of her commissions on expenses.  Add that to the 30% for taxes when you include both income taxes and self-employment taxes.  That means that 70% of a director’s commission check is gone. The percentage spent on expenses goes down as you  go up in the ranks, but it still costs money to be a director, and the amount the pretend the directors are making isn’t close to the reality.

And these “Mary Kay Millionaires”???? I would hope that after being with the company for 20 or 30 years that their cumulative commissions would be over a million dollars. But think about it: It would only take $50,000 a year for 20 years to get to a million dollars, and that’s BEFORE factoring in any expenses. Any way you slice it, no one is making as much money as they want you to believe.

What about my awesome Senior Director (a “Top Trip Director”) and other upline I admired?  Well, it suddenly became crystal clear that they loved me only when I was a part of Mary Kay.  Once I was no longer in MK, I was an outcast and lied about.  They did “damage control” which was more vicious lies and stories so no one would talk to me. (They actually did me a favor because I found out who my true friends really are.)

But, what about all their “successes?”  With a little investigation, I found more lies including:  Divorce, Children in counseling, $900 Cadillac co-pays EVERY month, ideas of suicide, and Bankruptcy.   This is not what I would consider a successful life.

Once you realize that even the Top Directors and NSDs aren’t making money or living the “dream life,”  it becomes apparent that MK is a dream that will never come true.  OMG!!!  I had been telling everyone to invest their money, be a Star consultant no matter what, spend time away from their family, quit their J.O.B.s, go out and warm chatter, and eat/breathe MK.  All for what?!

Now it is clear to me that not only was I never making much money, but no one under me made ANY money.  If I am really honest with myself, I lost money every year I was in MK.  I could have been making legitimate money at another job with money contributed to my retirement.  Now I have nothing to show for the last 5 years.   I was living a lie!

This brings me back to my original question.  Are you a hypocrite?  The definition of a Hypocrite is  “a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings.”  Now I ask you:  Do you dislike what Mary Kay Cosmetics does to women, but continue to support the company? 

I’m not sure if that makes you a hypocrite or not.  You have to be the judge of that for yourself.

At first, I didn’t think that I was doing anything wrong by placing orders after I resigned my directorship.   I have been justifying my orders by saying at least my dishonest former senior director wasn’t making money off of me.  But suddenly I realize that it doesn’t really matter which director or recruiter makes commission from my orders.  Bottom line is that Mary Kay Inc. makes the profit.

Some former directors continue to be consultants and service customers.  Sure it can be justified that they worked hard to get their customers.  Sure they might justify that they aren’t recruiting anymore.  Sure they can justify it is just for personal use.  We can all justify our actions today just as we did when we were consultants and directors.

But I ask them: is it really worth perpetuating a company that devastates so many lives?  Only they can decide how they feel about MK.  As for me, knowing what I know now, I simply cannot continue to support Mary Kay Cosmetics.


  1. raisinberry

    Ditto. 100% on point. Coming to the truth about Mary Kay Cosmetics, it’s recruitment practices, training, indoctrination, manipulation and fraud is like trying to detox out of a religious cult. It isn’t easy because we realize somewhere, we lost ourselves and got really comfy being a follow along, mindless hypocrite. First you have to wake up. Then you have to face it. Then you have to do something about it.

  2. enorth

    “Once I was no longer in MK, I was an outcast and lied about.”

    This occurs over and over in MK and other MLMs. They hook you with the promise of “sisterhood.”

    Business (real business) and sisterhood don’t mix. If you want sisterhood, join a convent.

    Men in business can be gentlemen and deal with one another with respect but, at the end of the day, they know it’s still business. It’s not “brotherhood.”

  3. enorth

    “women totally tearing down and lying to each other”

    There are recent videos on YouTube of former distributors (I saw one yesterday from a former high-status Younique rep) who are beginning to speak out about how they were treated. The higher she moved up, the more unsavory antics were uncovered. But trying to leave was a nightmare. She wants more women to begin speaking out, but so many are afraid.

    Apparently, a lot of Younique “leaders” and reps jumped ship and went to Limelight and other MLMs. Ironically (or maybe not), Limelight is now experiencing the same problems that caused them to leave Younique (bad products, high prices, back-orders, etc.)

    1. Char

      “Apparently, a lot of Younique “leaders” and reps jumped ship and went to Limelight and other MLMs. Ironically (or maybe not), Limelight is now experiencing the same problems that caused them to leave Younique (bad products, high prices, back-orders, etc.)”

      Duh, right?

      Sometimes I used the analogy of drunk driving to explain the act of MLMing. Imagine getting caught drunk driving drinking Patron Tequila, and then thinking next time I’ll try drinking Stoli Vodka instead. Sound ridiculous? Some MLMers are that stupid and don’t get it. These are the ones being conned by the “successful MLMers” aka CON ARTISTS.

      MLMing is a negative act like drunk driving. It doesn’t matter which brand you chose.

      Mark Kay just has the distinction of targeting women much like Virginia Slims cigarettes did to get women “smoking” their cancer sticks.

      Consultants/MLMers should remember that MLM actually stands for multi-level market “ing”. It’s not a product or brand.

  4. BestDecision

    Her 8th paragraph is just about the best statement and example ever posted on here. My Sr netting $41K/year since she’s been in could be called a “MK Millionaire”, and I could be called a “Million Dollar Director” because my unit retail was well over a million from the time I debuted until I resigned.

    But, does that make her a millionaire?

    Did that get me a Million dollar bar pin?

    No and no. Absurd!

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