Written by The Scribbler
I’m convinced that one of the most cherished verses in the world of MLMs – Mary Kay included – is Matthew 7:1, “Judge not, that ye be not judged.” Want to test that theory? All you need is someone who bats for the MLM team and a statement that challenges the MLM. It shouldn’t take long for someone to fire the “Judge not!” bazooka, especially if you quip “Hey, I read a director’s claim that Mary Kay gives you “a spiritual growth that surpasses Sunday School.” She’s referring to Sunday School in the Church of Satan, right?”
Let’s begin with a judge-themed quote from a pro-MKer regarding a Pink Truth article: “A wise teacher once said, do not judge…judging is reaching a final conclusion without having…all of the available information.”
This is an amusing observation, considering that success in the Mary Kay recruiting process hinges on the blatant omission of information. NSD Caterina Harris’s website features a document which states, “Invite guests to success meetings every week…tell them that on the way over that they will learn everything they need to know about the Mary Kay Career tonight in order for them to make an intelligent decision about coming into the Company.”
Reality check: Do you think that NSD Harris’ prospects are going to learn anything that doesn’t make the Mary Kay opportunity look like it flowed straight out of the nail holes in Jesus’ hands?
No, because according to NSD Emeritus Arlene Lenarz, “Too many facts can scare her off.” So if we go by our pro-MKer’s definition of judging, Mary Kay recruiters actually cause women to engage in wrongful judgment, because omitting facts that don’t paint Mary Kay in a magically-delicious light causes potential recruits to “reach a final conclusion without all of the available information!” Voila, Absolut Deception! (Recipe: Pour 1 ½ oz vodka and 3 oz strawberry liqueur into a cocktail shaker half-filled with ice cubes. Shake well, strain into a Dollar Tree tumbler, top with cotton candy. Serve with a Mary Kay Consultant Agreement.)
MLMs aren’t the only arenas in which the “Judge not!” concept is misused; you can be slapped with the Matthew verse in your day-to-day adventures as well. After witnessing an individual brag endlessly on Facebook about money, cars, and the classy confession that he can “…get crazy hot (expletive deleted, rhymes with “sass”) anytime I want it, anywhere,” I asked him, “I want to know where Jesus Christ fits into your life. When you die and stand before God someday, and he asks you, XXXX, why should I let you into heaven?” what will you say to Him?”
In an explosion of rage, the individual accused of not knowing my Bible, of not loving my neighbor, and of slander. My original question remained unanswered, so I asked it again. He accused me of judging him before insisting that he was a “born-again Christian” and heavily involved in his church. Of course, after seeing the fellow’s claim of how he could acquire some blazing booty 24/7, from sea to shining sea, one could understand why I’d posed the question in the first place.
Why do you think the “Judge not!” defense is so popular? If I ask a Mary Kay director to explain why NSD Dacia Wiegandt tells Mary Kay consultants to lie to their customers (more on that later), and the director snaps back with “Do not judge or you too will be judged!” I am apt to wonder why the director would react like that. Is she hoping the verse will function as a spiritual spike strip and guilt me into silence? Is the director harboring guilt herself because she follows Wiegandt’s practices and is unable to defend them? Does the director fear that she will have to face some ugly realities of her Mary Kay business as a result of my challenging her NSD’s teachings?
Did you know that the “Judge not!” crowd is running on an incomplete definition of “judge?” We already know what Matthew 7:1 says; unfortunately, most Mary Kay Templars stop there. There’s so much more to be found in verse 2, which says, “For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged.” We are indeed being told to judge, friends! Jesus said in Matthew 7:6, “Give not which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast not your pearls before swine.” How could one discern dogs and swine apart from others if they did not judge? Romans 12:9 says to “abhor what is evil, cling to what is good.” How could we discern what is evil and what is good unless we judge?
So how should we go about it? John 7:24 gives us the answer: “Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.” That’s basically saying don’t judge a book by its cover…. do some reading first.
Earlier I accused NSD Dacia Wiegandt of teaching women how to lie, and I’m prepared to show you why I judged her in that manner. Here is just one example. In one very public speech, Wiegandt cheerfully explained how to get a woman into a recruiting interview: “If [the potential recruit] says to me, “Well, I’ve actually gotta go because I gotta pick up my child,” what am I going to do? I’m going to leave something out of her product. So I have a reason to get back with her within 24 hours. Y’all have to think quick, y’all have to think on your toes. So how does tomorrow sound? I have that Miracle Set, but I don’t have the foundation – hint hint, right? So tomorrow, I’m going to have lunch with you, bring the foundation, and then I’m going to market her right there and share the opportunity.” Wiegandt closed her speech with the wistful claim that she surrendered her Mary Kay business to God and took Him as her business partner.
To call NSD Wiegandt a Mary Kay charlatan without seeing evidence of such would be wrongful judgment. But as we’ve seen, Wiegandt indeed teaches women how to lie. And her behavior doesn’t appear to be an honest mistake or a slip of the tongue, either. In fact, lying seems to be a regular business practice for this NSD. Wiegandt has advised wannabe directors to “Pull inventory as soon as [new recruits] sign” (a process which involves no small amount of fibbing by omission) and warned her followers that God would judge them at Seminar if they failed to “dazzle” Him with a “You SO need to meet me” attitude. If NSD Wiegandt is actively spewing this garbage (and at company events, no less) it’s safe to say that she’s neck-deep in the trash truck herself.
What about Wiegandt’s claim that she took God as her business partner? If she is partnering with the Almighty, am I to assume He’s cool with her teaching women things that directly contradict His Word? “Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor” is just the tip of the iceberg, and both Proverbs 6:16-17 and Psalm 101:7 clearly show that God does not play partner to liars. Jesus takes it one step further in John 8:44 by calling the devil the “father of lies,” and so I have to ask NSD Wiegandt, “It’s 10pm; do you know who your business partner is?” It’s said that one will know what sort of tree one is dealing with by observing the fruit it bears, and seeing that NSD Wiegandt’s tree bears the fruit of deception insures that I can boldly step forward and make a righteous judgment about how she runs her Mary Kay business. Not only that, but I can enjoy complete freedom to engage in a hearty belly-laugh if someone tells me I can’t judge her, knowing full well I did not come to such a conclusion lightly.
I encourage each and every woman reading this today to not only be fearless “fruit inspectors,” but women who strive to practice righteous judgment in every aspect of their lives. Yes, it is tougher. Yes, it does take effort and legwork. And NO, it’s not negative! The feeling of knowing that you did your homework instead of unquestioningly accepting an NSD’s behavior or spitting out a quick bible verse/Mary Kay catchphrase is both satisfying, enriching, and a surefire indicator that you are a woman who walks a path of careful thought and integrity.