Another Mary Kay husband writes to tell us of the deception, manipulation, and financial impact of his wife’s decision to get involved with the company.
I’ve read through the pink truth website off and on for over a year now but I thought I would toss you an e-mail since I really don’t have anyone else to talk to about “this”.
Two Novembers ago, my wife said that she was interested in joining Mary Kay after she had a couple facials done by someone she knew. Prior to that, we had talked about the fact that Mary Kay is probably a pyramid scheme (in which we both agreed) and I never thought in a million years that she would express ANY interest in it.
I figured, since signing up with a starter kit didn’t really cost that much ($100) and we had recently moved about 3 hours away from our hometown (because of my job), and she was staying home and taking care of our young boys, I thought it would probably wouldn’t be “that bad” for her to get out and do something. I told her I thought it was probably a scam but if she felt comfortable with it, then do it.
Now, I love my wife, but her next move was inconceivably “bad” in my opinion. She tells me a few days later that she purchased $2,700 in inventory. To be honest, I flipped my lid at that point. We are pretty frugal to begin with and she told me after she made the purchase.
Needless to say this has caused a lot of strain on our marriage for the past year. Since then, I’ve done my research on MLM’s (Penn and Teller have a great episode on them too by the way). I totally feel like she was a victim (but she doesn’t see it that way). She truly believes that if it doesn’t sell, it’s her fault and she didn’t follow the system.
It’s been more than a year and the initial credit card purchase of MK inventory has only been paid down ..say .. maybe $300. It seems that the only way that you can really make money is to recruit. Just selling this stuff doesn’t yield a return that is worth it. She managed to get one recruit but that is it.
It’s gotten so bad that I’m not even allow to ask any specific questions about it or she gets SO upset with me immediately. I always argued who gets left holding the bag when it doesn’t sell but she really thinks I just want to make her miserable which is simply not true at all. I want her to be happy and NOT be taken advantage of (and honestly I don’t think she feels like she’s been taken advantage of).
She has completely swallowed the Mary Kay kool-aid and there is no point for me to try to convince her to send the inventory back before the year is up because it will just end up in an argument. I really do feel horrible for making her feel so bad about it but she continues to think it’s such a great thing and I have yet to see anything great about it.
Anymore, I just bit my lip and dread the day that I have to start draining our family finances to pay for something that could have (should have) been avoided to begin with. There are plenty of volunteer jobs out there where you DON’T lose money :).
Anyway, I’m not writing you to ask you to talk to my wife or anything like that. I just thought I could talk with someone that could possibly understand how I feel. Maybe all I need is someone to tell me it’s not that bad and I shouldn’t worry about it because it’s not worth it. Humongous ***SIGH***