Mary Kay Predator and Prey

Written by Blackbird

Every successful predator knows how to hunt its prey, right?

Some predators use speed, agility, or ambush to accomplish their goals. Really intelligent predators though, don’t bother wasting time and their own energy chasing or stalking things. They have learned that running towards some kinds of prey actually induces them to run away. Instead of pursuing-they have mastered the art of being pursued.

These smart predators know how to purposely bring the prey to them. They don’t rely on luck or even their own physical skills, but rather cash in on the mental and emotional weaknesses of those they are hunting.

Their deadliness comes from the very fact that they don’t appear to be deadly at all-and hence they entice the hunted to participate in their own demise.

Mary Kay has become, either by design or unhappy accident, such a predator in the lives of many of the women it comes in contact with. It’s a kingdom that is being built on the mental and emotional weaknesses of others and it’s very skillful at finding prey.

And one of the biggest reasons it is so skillful, is because the hunters were once the hunted and they have learned their own lessons well.

As MK consultants, sales directors, etc. we are trained, though we seldom realize it, to become what most of us didn’t really like about Mary Kay in the first place-an emotional manipulator.

We often have good intentions when we start, but finding customers is difficult and eventually many of us take the easy way out. We remember the emotional manipulation that worked on us, and we begin to use the same tactics on others. As we try to succeed in the company, we don’t always feel good about the things we do to get others interesting in MK, but we tell ourselves it’s o.k. because the same thing was used on us and it turned out alright.

We may feel bad, and some of us may even believe that if the company knew what was going on, they would put an end to it. Sometimes though we just can’t see that the company doesn’t just expect this kind of stuff to happen, it depends on it.

Why?

Because MK is all about opportunistic hunting and when their consultants succumb to using emotional manipulation on the women around them to get them interested in the company, it has the desired affect of turning each MK consultant into not only a better ‘hunter’ for the pack but also makes them their own bait.

As women, we inherently trust that another woman would not entice us to get involved with something that they themselves were currently being harmed by. Thus, the fact that a woman we know and trust is in MK becomes a good reason, in and of itself, to sign up too.

It’s the perfect way for the company to bring the prey to them with the least possible use of energy or effort on their part. They sit back and reel us in one by one-using each new catch as bait on the hook for the next cast of the line.

Who needs a great product or honestly successful job opportunities to get women attracted to the company when they have driven, desperate consultants telling every woman who will listen all about how wonderful the company is to them? Ever wonder if that’s why the ‘I-story’ is so successful and pushed so hard?

One thing about predators and prey though, is that the prey always has the advantage, and all the more so when they know the hunter is near. As women, in the business world, we need to remember to use our heads more and our hearts a little less. We can’t simply trust that what others are telling us is the truth or true to their experiences.

We need to be more aware of the hunters out there in the world and stop making ourselves such easy prey. If it’s not Mary Kay now (or anymore, for most of us), it will be something else later on. Let’s make it impossible for people, good intentioned or otherwise, to prey upon our emotions or to manipulate our reactions.

Mary Kay has told us over and over again that we are strong, intelligent women who won’t let others determine our course in life-it’s time to prove to them that they are right.

9 Comments

  1. Cindylu

    Great Article. MK draws us in with Spiritual Slogans, the go give spirit, helping women etc. The reality is that the predators think of us as inferior. We are simply something to be used and discarded. The MK books play the blame game. From the very beginning there has been cruelty and bullying going on. MK herself pitted directors against each other for her own personal gain. A company that pretends to care but ignores consultants that get sick, need time for funerals or to care for relatives is definitely predatory. Sheer greed is definitely what is found when the layers of the pink manipulation tactics are brought to light.

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  2. NayMKWay

    A lot of MLMs are big on the “I-story” bait. They hand down scripts that look like Mad-libs:

    “I joined [number] weeks ago, and I’m so glad I did! I waited [amount of time] to be sure this was for me, and now I’m kicking myself for waiting so long. Since joining, I have [accomplished a goal] and now I’m already on track for [bigger, more attractive goal]!” Etc. There will often be some bit about being grateful for having made such wonderful new friends (their tribe) and being able to stay home and spend more time with family (as if), layering on the bait in hopes of getting a bite.

    Once you know what to look for, you see it for what it is, and it’s disgusting.

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    1. MakeupLover

      Also commonly included in the “I story” : “Things changed dramatically when I decided to make God my business partner! My business began to prosper and take off…”
      This was guaranteed to make the listener doubt their faith and belief because they were failing so God must not be blessing them. I hated this feeling along with the teachings of “The Secret” (popularly taught by Directors) which also made one feel powerless and a loser. Something must be wrong in my belief system because I am not prospering, or I’m sick, etc.

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  3. Mountaineer95

    Well done, and also props for this:

    “…hunt its prey…”

    So many Kaybots don’t seem to understand the use of “its” and “it’s”, so it’s refreshing to see proper usage!

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  4. Brainwashed no more

    I’ve been thinking about how mk is a narcissistic company. All about themselves, gaslighting their people and even trying that on pink truth. It’s interesting how threatening the truth is to a narcissist. It exposes them. But, it’s all about them. No empathy is another quality that they have. Keep gaslighting and trying to blame the scapegoat. It’s all our fault no matter what.

  5. Char

    I debated posting this because there is no comparison regarding the act itself. NONE. But, I couldn’t help but be reminded of ‘some’ of the similarities. It’s truly sad that I’d make a connection at all:

    Predator, prey, narcissism, manipulation, grooming, money, women, and girls. Epstein groomed those young girls, preyed on their weaknesses, and those victims RECRUITED other young girls for extra money. The girls trusted other girls, their friends. Sound familiar?

    “These smart predators know how to purposely bring the prey to them. They don’t rely on luck or even their own physical skills, but rather cash in on the mental and emotional weaknesses of those they are hunting.

    Their deadliness comes from the very fact that they don’t appear to be deadly at all-and hence they entice the hunted to participate in their own demise…………..And one of the biggest reasons it is so skillful, is because the hunters were once the hunted and they have learned their own lessons well…….. As women, we inherently trust that another woman would not entice us to get involved with something that they themselves were currently being harmed by. Thus, the fact that a woman we know and trust is in […..] becomes a good reason, in and of itself, to sign up [for it] too.”

    How could young victims being abused $exually be complicit, and RECRUIT other victims? It’s mind boggling. The power of emotional manipulation should never be underestimated. Get out now and deprogram yourself.

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