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A great site for information on “cult dynamics” is Skeptic Tank. The site has many articles about cults, and everything is in easy-to-read “layman” terms. (Or in our case, lay-woman

Jan Groenveld also put together many cult resources, and aggregated them on her site Cult Awareness and Information Centre. (She passed away in 2002, and the site is now maintained by someone else.) On the site, there is a page called “Commercial Cults”. Included on this page are multi-level marketing plans. Interesting, no?

Cult expert Steven Hassan, author of Combating Cult Mind Control, also provides lots of information about cults. He is a former cult member as well as a certified counselor.

Cults exercise four distinct types of control over their members:

1. Behavior control
2. Thought control
3. Emotional control
4. Information control

Behavior control can include controlling basic activities of people, including what they eat, where they sleep, where they work, rituals they engage in, etc. Cults have strict schedules for their members, and there is always an activity going on. Every cult has its own custom behaviors and rituals. Behavior control can even become powerful enought that members participate in their own punishment and believe that they deserve it.

Mary Kay connection:

• Directors and up are required to wear the same suit (as well as pantyhose, black closed toe shoes, etc.). Yet they all believe it is a privilege for them to wear it. Lower levels also wear “uniforms”. These include “Red Jackets” (we've all heard of red jacket purgatory), shirts in black or white (depending upon level), and black skirts.
• There are constantly events going on in Mary Kay. I have seen Directors have as many as 4 meetings a week (attendance is usually dependant upon your level within the unit). Thgere are also debuts, conferences, Seminar, nsd events/lectures, etc. All of these are done to keep the consultants "in front of" the MK opportunity and all it has to offer (i.e. Keep them motivated and reaching for the "dream".)
• The punishment in Mary Kay is quite subtle. It is so subtle that many will deny it ever happens. There are stories of people holding rubber chickens or wearing a dunce cap for saying something negative. Most women went along with those shaming rituals because of their fear of retribution or shunning by other members or the sales directors. Oftentimes, they agree that they deserve to hold the chicken, so to speak, because they know they shouldn't have said anything negative in the first place
  

Thought control uses the indoctrination of members so that they manipulate their own thought processes. The ideology of the cult is accepted and internalized as “the truth”. All new information received by the person is filtered through these beliefs. Thought control may also include “thought stopping” techniques. This is accomplished by doing things such as chanting, meditating, singing, or concentrated praying. These techniques stop members from thinking about reality, and instead, they are focused on positive thoughts about the group.

Mary Kay connection:

• Many Mary Kay consultants take what their directors or nsd’s say as “gospel”. They fervently defend deceptive statements like "Mary Kay is the #1 selling brand"and "Mary Kay is taught at Harvard".
• Directors hold up large commission checks and tout their larger-than-life lifestyle that was funded by those checks. The same directors never disclose the expenses associated with acquiring those commission checks. The unit members accept the “truth” that that the almighty commission check is easily attainable (they can do it too) and there is no concern over the sacrifices or expenses connected with the check.
• Mary Kay is famous for its lingo, and I'm sure many have heard numerous quotes and sayings, either those of Mary Kay Ash herself or someone up the food chain. These sayingz are mostly what consultants hear when they go to those events, instead of any kind of real information. Just a few: "You have to show up, to go up." "Short term sacrifice, for long term gain." "Slow is hard, fast is easy." We could probably fill a book with these!
• Consultants are trained from the beginning NOT to speak negatively about MK or their MK experience. Any question about Mary Kay should be answered with the word “great”. This is the only acceptable answer, even if you have had a bad week.

Emotional control is used to manipulate a person’s range of feelings. Guilt and fear are used heavily to maintain control. Cult members do not recognize the control exercised through guilt. Fear is used by cults to create an enemy (us versus them). The fear of punishment is also used to manipulate members who may not feel they are good enough. Cults also instill panic at the thought of leaving the group. Members cannot even imagine a life outside of the group.

Mary Kay connection:

• To see how much emotional control there is in Mary Kay, replace the word “cult” in the above paragraph with “unit” (as in MK unit). How many of us STILL blame ourselves for "failing" at MK? Many. And there are even more of us out there that just aren't sure if we really tried hard enough?
• Directors and up are trained to use inventory as a means of guilt manipulation. If you're not making money in MK, then it’s because you don't have enough inventory! If you had a "full store" you would HAVE TO sell and then you would make money! You will never be SERIOUS about your MK business unless you stock a "full store". How many have bought into the $600 level of Inventory and felt "guilt" about not having the $1800 or $3600 level?
• How many here have already confessed ill feelings about the very thought of telling their director or recruiter about wanting to leave MK because of the guilt they will feel? This guilt didn't happen by accident; it has been instilled since day one in MK.
• The outside enemy in Mary Kay includes your family, friends, parents, husband, or anyone who speaks even remotely negative about MK. You can also be your own enemy in MK. You are NOT to speak of your negative experiences in MK. Do you have a husband who is not in favor of taking out a loan for your $4000 inventory? He's unsupportive. Is your mom worried about you put $2000 on your first credit card out of college? She's not being supportive either. Is your best friend skeptical of the MK opportunity and about the claims of big money? She's just jealous and doesn't have what you have to succeed. You must alienate yourself from all negative forces to be in good graces with MK. (In other words, you must alienate yourself from anyone who cares enough to tell you the truth.)
• No, there really isn't a physical gun held to your head, but rather a psychological one! Everything in MK is emotional... they bring you in because you have a "need". Recruiters are trained to find the need of each woman and emphasize how Mary Kay will fit that need. The recruit is elated. She wants more money for her family, and MK can provide it. So you sign up, you're excited, you brag to everyone, you can't wait to get started. Your business kit comes in the mail... it's like Christmas! The next day you have your first "career" meeting with your Director where she is about to tell you how to be everything you ever wanted to be with MK... and what does she give you? The inventory talk. No gun. Just her and your decision to make your dreams come true or not. Again, no gun.

Information control focuses on denying a person necessary information to make a sound judgment. Cult members are trapped because they are denied access to critical information that would help them evaluate their situation. Psychological chains can be just as strong as physical chains. Cult members become unable to process any critical information given to them.

Mary Kay connection:

• Many would like to see this blog taken down. They don’t like what MKS does here. She tells the truth to those who need the information to make a sound decision about Mary Kay. Does MK deny information? Yes! Directors don’t present the $200 level during inventory talks. They don’t offer this site or others like it for some information from the “other side. They don’t tell recruits to seek input from their husbands. You get the idea.
• If you placed “negative” information in front of a Mary Kay consultant, would she be able to process it for use in her MK decisions, or would be become agitated and maybe hateful in her defense of MK? One only needs to read the posts on this site from MK consultants (or on pro-MK sites) to know the answer.

One more comment about thought control, which can be so subtle. The victim doesn’t know who is the enemy because the enemy seems like their best friend who only has their best interests at heart.

Was your director or recruiter your best friend? Did she say things like “love and bee-lief” and talk about how much she “loves” you? In the same email or conversation, did she also “encourage” you to put in a Star Order? Maybe for the sake of the “team”? Didn’t you want to help your director earn a pink Cadillac? After all, she spent so much time helping you, encouraging you, lifting you up, providing spiritual motivation for you? So you order more inventory, even if you don’t really need it. You don’t have much on your books, but she’s your friend and she deserves that car.

Many completely overlook the debt that is encouraged in Mary Kay, the alienation from family and spouses, the indoctrination by repetitive events, etc. Because they desperately want to help their “friend”.

A group does not have to be religious to be cultic in behavior. Beware, especially if you are bright, intelligent, and idealistic. The most likely person to be caught up in cult behavior is the one who says “It won’t happen to me. I won’t fall for it. I’m too smar

You can also read parts one and two of the cult series.