Burn Your Bridges for Mary Kay

Written by SuzyQ

Burn those bridges, ladies!  It’s the right thing to do!  Trust me!

Oh my.  Did anyone else hear those words in Mary Kay?  Of course you did, especially if you became one of the TOP TWO PERCENT IN THE ENTIRE WORLD (that would be a director, of course), or at least in the company.  I wish I had a nickel for every time I heard “Mary Kay doesn’t like her directors to work.  It makes it look as though you don’t trust the company or the position of director.”

How many times did we hear directors say they were so excited to leave their J.O.B.S. so they could stop devoting all of that time working for someone else, and instead use that time to build their own futures?  How many other times were we told lies?  For example:

  • Can you give yourself a raise whenever you want?
  • Can you promote yourself at work?
  • Can you take time off whenever you please?
  • If you decide that you want Fridays off, can you take Fridays off?
  • Do you have to call in sick to someone?  Have you ever needed a note from the doctor?
  • Your health insurance is not a benefit, do you know they are taking it out of your salary?
  • Are you being paid what you are worth, or what the “job” is worth?
  • Do you get recognition at work?
  • Can a (wo)man be loyal to two masters?
  • Have you taken God as your business partner?
  • Do you trust that God has laid His plan for success on your heart?
  • Isn’t it fun to make money by playing with make-up and talking on the phone?

So, directors, remember those first few weeks after DIT?  Thinking you had made it, you had really made it!  You had some debt with the fake consultants and all, but everybody else did, too.  In my DIT class, Tom Whatley laughed and told us we needed to replace the “mirror foggers” and get right back into DIQ.  We laughed, too.

We bought all the business tools and bling we were given the opportunity to buy, and learned quickly that director expenses were incredibly high.  We didn’t want to look cheap though and we knew we had to sell the director sizzle.  We also knew that business debt is good and personal debt was bad, and it would all add funny stuff to the I story when we debuted as NSDs.  The road map was clear, all we had to do was follow.

We are told even more now—now that we are directors—that Mary Kay didn’t like her directors to work.  Many of us have jobs that are not particularly wonderful—positive recognition may be missing, hours may be funky, pay may not be as much as we would like, coworkers may not appreciate us trying to recruit them, bosses may not understand that we need to be on the phone during our lunch breaks, or that we need time off to attend a retreat or event or function, and our senior directors just sigh when we express our frustration… it feels like we are trying to work two full-time jobs.  One of them seems to have a dead-end and the other has unlimited potential.  They understand, our seniors, and they say again “Mary Kay doesn’t like her directors to work, what are you waiting for?”

So, we quit our day jobs.  We have been slowly and completely been absorbed into the pink fog.  We know we are winners!   We are directors!  We drive free cars! We are business women!  We are Godly women, and MK is our mission field! We are in the Top 2% of the Company!  I remember feeling terrified and empowered when I quit.  My daughter had a more practical point… I remember her words as though it was yesterday…  “Way to go Mom, now we will be on the street.”  I responded “We will look so pretty someone will rescue us.”

When we are directors in MK there is no extra money for continuing education and licensure requirements and those of us with professional credentials really have no choice but to let them expire.  We are not supposed to work, so we can’t get practice hours, and we can’t afford the additional expense of continuing education hours anyway.  We burn our bridges. We are on our own.  But, our MK business will save us if we bee-lieve enough and work hard.

Burning those bridges.  The bridges need to be burned so that all of our effort and energy is focused on MK, and not those silly credentials that pull our attention away from the task of building our units.  If we have something professional to “fall back on” we will not invest what is necessary–emotionally, spiritually or financially– into our MK business.  When MK becomes our sole source of income, MK logic tells us we will be successful, if we don’t burn the bridges, we are not the kind of director MK wants us to be.

Except what boss or professional has EVER encouraged you to lose the license you worked so hard to get? What business owner has ever suggested that you need to let that certification go so you’d be more committed to their company? Who in their right mind encourages you to burn a bridge when you never know when you may need another professional opportunity? NONE. Except Mary Kay. Real professionals know the value of licenses and certifications even if you’re not currently utilizing them. Real professionals know that someday a job opportunity might come your way unexpectedly, and you might just need that license. But not in Mary Kay. They want you to give up everything you worked so hard for that you will be forced to stay in MK. Even if you want or need to go back to your old profession, without that license or certification, you’ll have a hard time doing so.

So many other PT’ers, including me, have written about specific issues related to directorship and why it is so hard, I won’t go through it here again.  What I do want to address again though, is the fact that many of us were incredibly successful and good at what we did at our J.O.B.S., and in our professions, that it was humiliating and impossible to understand how we could fail so badly at something that supposedly required nothing more than “squirting and reading.”

Burning those bridges… it’s too late for many of us, but lurkers?  Lurkers, please listen.  DO NOT burn your bridges. Maintain your certifications and credentials. Keep your options alive.  Do whatever it takes to keep those bridges open.  MK will not work, read a little more on this site if you still have doubts about us “lazy loosers.” Meanwhile, back at the ranch, I had to spend over $1300 (money from my J.O.B.) and a year of my life to regain one of my licenses. I once again have professional licensure… it’s a good thing.


  1. cindylu

    I had the opportunity for free re-training after I retired from stupid MK. Not one director knew one iota about glamor. I naively believed MK was about selling make up. Ha ha ha what a foolish belief. Imagine having a make up kit and all that skin care and actually thinking this pink nightmare was about actual make up. A former director make up artist was still lurking about profiting from us gullible newly minted IBC’s. I asked her to teach me glamor. The twit agreed and charged my former company an extraordinarily high amount for a worthless contrived course. Each day for one week she pretended to teach glamor. She convinced two other IBC’s to join the fake course occasionally for the next ten days. I learned nothing from this fraud. She did get her money though. I had to travel to her area by train and waste each day trying desperately to learn glamor. How embarrassing that I wasted a company’s money on this mlm scheme. There were many other new careers I could have studied for: Real Estate, Marketing, Teaching, massage therapist, etc. Instead I trusted this horrible failed Director pretending to be a trained make up artist. Heck MK brought her in every two months to pretend to teach make up artistry using the MK products. Ugh. Everywhere I went there was deceit, phoniness and selfish unkind women. How women can do this to each other for over fifty years is unbelievable. Definitely hang on to your careers and credentials. Hang on to your babies and husbands too. Don’t be conned by these stupid slogans, this flawed marketing scam, this pink charade designed to allow a select few to use other women for their own gain. You cannot do this part time while you care for small children. Even with working many hours, attending mind numbing conferences and useless meetings you won’t make executive income. One NSD I know lives in the exact same ordinary house her husband paid for years ago. She definitely isn’t a millionaire. She has gotten prizes and trips. I also got to travel in my career. I didn’t have to ruin the lives of others financially to get those perks either.

  2. BestDecision

    I’m seeing a trend brewing where NSDs are starting to call themselves “life coaches”. Many of these used to be teachers, so I’m betting they’re seeing the ship sinking and are readying themselves to get income once they’re no longer an NSD and are without their certifications anymore.

    1. PeachyNotPink

      Years ago I used to see a life coach regularly, but back then they were called “bartenders”. 🙂

      All joking aside, it’s nothing but trying to turn a sow’s ear into a silk purse.

  3. Still Breaking The Basic

    “Burning those bridges. The bridges need to be burned so that all of our effort and energy is focused on MK….”

    Lurkers, this is one of the many definitions of a cult.

  4. Lazy Gardens

    Yet, when someone is leaving, they want you to NOT “burn that bridge” by sending product back. “Leave your options open, just in case things don’t work out, you can always start Mary Kay right up again.

    Of course, then it’s to their profit to have you stuck with all your old inventory

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