Facts, opinions, and the real story behind Mary Kay Cosmetics.

Put on Your Big Girl Panties

Written by Raisinberry

We have talked about the cult mentality and technique that Mary Kay sales leadership employs to draw in and convince women that the world of Mary Kay is the most wholesome and strengthening environment for women. Slogans designed to shut down objective thinking are repeated over and over until one repeats them to themselves.

Hiding behind the control of “positive attitude,” the faults and flaws of Mary Kay can’t be discussed and those who attempt it are shunned. What we do not notice is a reduction of our “standing” as an independent contractor. Inundated with slogans, we have a diminished capacity to evaluate what is really being said to us and believed about us. A woman who tells you to “put on your big girl panties” is mindlessly repeating a slogan that was said to her without ever evaluating what she is really saying.

Your objections, hardships, concerns and criticisms are reduced to one single thought. You are acting like a child, and you need to grow up and get a pair of whatever the women wear, who don’t complain and criticize or have concerns. Putting on your big girl panties is a vulgar and demeaning way to reduce you to nothing more than a whining baby in a diaper.

Let me ask you a question. In a professional environment, would your boss, male or female, EVER tell you that the answer to your concern that you have no leads or bookings is, “well put on your big girl panties and get to work”?

I mention this, because one of the reasons why Mary Kay is out of control in its abuse of women, is that very few women have actual success in this company. They believe (due to the positive mental attitude control tactic) that everyone ELSE does. So they adopt the sayings of all the noteworthy, stage hogs and repeat them without ever evaluating what they are really saying.

It is a combination of the lack of personal success, the “fake it till you make it” attitude, combined with mimicking those who are believed to be successful, that brings us this vast sea of mindless slogans that offer us no real help in the building of our so-called businesses.

From, “believe and achieve”, to “show up to go up”, “stars drive cars” to “if it is to be it’s up to me”, all this crafted sloganeering hides the grim reality that most of the “professional” sales force have no real leadership training, no real personal success selling this product, and no evaluation of their skills from a “National” or Corporate Sales Trainer that could have course corrected this nonsense long ago.

Masquerading as a cosmetics giant, Mary Kay, by its own behavior, admits that it is simply a large Cosmetics Day Care for hobby consultants who squeal and prance over the illusion of success and cheap prizes. And “managing” that production are the directors who believed the sloganeering and kept their mouths shut as to their lack of success, because they were certain that success was just a recruit away. They, after all, had earned their big girl panties when they finished DIQ.

I find it ironic that women who wouldn’t tolerate this kind of talk in a regular corporate environment do so from OTHER WOMEN! Mary Kay as a direct seller, escapes responsibility for attending to the leadership skills or lack thereof of the NSDs and sales directors. In essence, even directors are only taught, “book sell book recruit.”

That leaves the entire consultant sales force victim to the bad behavior, deceitfulness, manipulation and ignorance of those who are supposed to be teaching them. One look through the stories on this site will validate the fact that many NSDs are guilty of abuses of finances, spirituality, emotions, and leadership, through the way they communicate and the little concern they show for skills development in their downline.

After all, what skill does it take to write down the numbers of a credit card, hold a meeting, or dangle a prize to get guests to come hear a new batch of sloganeering?

And Mary Kay, Inc. is protected from responsibility, it seems, because we are all “independent”. How convenient.

It might be time to think of nothing else than for conviction to fall on every NSD and all of Mary Kay’s corporate staff. A real awakening of all the abuses on so many levels that this company has tolerated and looked the other way on, to the detriment of beauty consultants, probably world ide.

I mention this because I was told, that “what you think about you bring about.” I’d sure like to see if this is true.


  1. Juliet

    Oh Raisinberry LET IT BE!!!!! Let it be true, what you think about you bring about cause all of us here at Pink Truth could bring about the demise of the behemoth!!!! LET IT BE!!!! Fabulous, as always, and oh my word, so freaking inspirational today!!!! xooxxoxoxo

  2. Ihatemk

    Has anyone heard if this company? It is called forget me not contacts and their web address is fmncontacts.com. It appeared in one of my FB feeds. For certain fees you can get all kinds of services to help promote your MK business and no I am not promoting this site. I am not sure if a MK consultant director or what runs it. My question is if MK sells itself than why all the need for promos? Check it out and let me know what you all think. In my opinion it is selling false hope that you will be able to sell MK and one of the promos was call me for a free whatever. Really? I am not sure if u have to purchase something or not to get it. I would like to know what those who have actually done MK think about this. To me it is just another beau to kiss your money goodbye. This is the text that was in my feed. They offer other services. I am really curious about what you all think and Tracy have you heard of them. Once again website is GM contacts.com

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  3. Data Junkie

    “Masquerading as a cosmetics giant, Mary Kay, by its own behavior, admits that it is simply a large Cosmetics Day Care for hobby consultants who squeal and prance over the illusion of success and cheap prizes.”

    That is one of the most brutally honest and succinct sentences I’ve read in all my years of researching MLM companies. Bravo Raisinberry!

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