Leaving the Pink Cult

A long time Mary Kay consultant finally decides to leave the pink cult.

I was in MK for 17 years before deciding to leave. My highest level attained was DIQ. I was in my 2nd month of DIQ when I decided to leave. I should’ve never submitted DIQ. It was never in my heart. Being an audiologist was in my heart.

I left because in all honesty, God put the conviction on my heart to leave. It was while I was reading my daily devotional. I had been on PinkTruth a few times before that reading the stories and had spoken with friends of mine who were former directors. They disappeared quietly. Of course, no one ever spoke of them.

I was always suspicious of how we were to “operate” as we moved up the career path, but I knew in my heart it was just wrong after attending a director’s meeting the month before I left. DIQs were invited and since I was now with the “big girls,” I wanted to see what it was like. We speak of empowering women, but in reality, they spoke of their consultants as “numbers.” It was only about production and number of recruits. Being there confirmed what I had suspected, but didn’t want to admit.

My director/recruiter was my friend for about 5 years before I joined MK. Needless to say, she shunned me ASAP and blocked me on FaceBook. It’s sad, but I completely expected it. She knows she’s living a lie and she will need to come to terms with that someday.

Although I was able to return about $4,000 of product, I was in debt to the tune of about $6,000. It will take awhile, but we will be able to pay it off. Fortunately, I have a very understanding and supportive hubby. I had a good customer base that bought tons of my product at 50% off before I returned the rest.

Thankfully, I ALWAYS remained in my real “job” as an audiologist which I’ve done for over 20 years. Some directors at a retreat (a few months before I left, I was a team leader) had suggested I not renew my professional license so I couldn’t use it as a back-up. I literally LOL when they said that. Glad I ignored that stupid “advice.” I work part-time and absolutely love it. Real money, making a real difference.

I “lost” many of my MK girlfriends, but I knew I would. I had seen the shunning many times before. I realized that they weren’t real friends. And thankfully, 99% of my real friends were outside of MK & loved me even more when I left MK. 🙂

I’ve gone through the typical roller coaster of emotions after leaving the MK cult, but have done very well and really love my life. I’m 100% here for my family and while I felt guilty about the missed time with them when I was chasing the MK dream, I can be the wife/mom I need to be now. I educate those who ask about MK, or when the opportunity presents itself. I let them know my experiences, refer them to Pink Truth, and will welcome them with open arms when/if they leave MK.

9 COMMENTS

  1. Such a hopeful message OP! Way to stay focused on the important things even when in the thick of things in MK. Sounds like you have a strong support base of true friends who didn’t write you off when you took the plunge into MLM. Hopefully you can share more about how they supported you and stayed in your life during your time in MK. Many folks, like me, wish we knew the secret to supporting F+F caught up in MLM without enabling or alienating them.

    Congrats, and thank you for sharing your story!

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  2. Awesome! This a a great birthday present to me 🙂 Another soul saved from the pink demon!!!!! You go gurl!!!!

  3. This is awesome to read! Thank you for sharing your story.

    There are a lot of consultants and directors who did not “give up” their professional licenses. One SD who was always held in esteem is PJ Baunach. She was an attorney with the Department of Justice and retired just a few years ago. Yes, she worked at the DOJ and is a sales director. She had been asked MANY times about leaving the DOJ, but she never would. (I’m guessing the benefits and retirement plan kept her around.)

  4. It’s awful to hear how common Mary Kay people give the recommendation to let your professional license lapse! Uh, absolutely not! So irresponsible of them. Especially when you currently need a doctoral degree to practice audiology. All that time, energy, and money spent to earn your degree.
    Thanks for sharing your story.

  5. Just another example of how ugly and predatory Mary Kay is. If it was really about empowering women, the consultants would be encouraged to keep their professional licenses and get the education to get more if they wish, not hold to throw them away.

    Mary Kay Ash was no champion for women, she was steeped in internal misogyny and just wanted to exploit women the same way men did.

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