Fake It Till You Make It
Written by MaryKayExploitsWomen
“Fake it Till You Make It” is the mantra that Mary Kay directors foist upon their consultants, and especially upon their women in Direcor-In-Qualification (DIQ).
Why do they insist that you “fake it till you make it”? Simple. If you are honest at the pow-wows about your ACTUAL retail sales, the water becomes clear and the pink fog dies. Women who are potential recruits will see that there is no profit to be had, except by MK Corp, and MK Corp alone. (With the exception of the top 5% of NSDs who make their money off of exploiting, you, Ms. Opportunity and pulling a “Bernie Madoff” on you by making off with your life savings and credit rating.)
As a personal fitness trainer who works with clients to lose weight and become healthy, I can tell you first hand that “fake it till you make it” does NOT work. Here’s why (from a fitness point of view):
I have to say, that the phrase “fake it till you make” drives me up the wall. People use that mentality all the time, whether it’s an attempt at losing weight, or trying to meet another goal of some kind.
Here’s my problem with “fake it till you make it”. If you are faking it, that means you are not doing the work you need to do and that means ZERO results. Now, let’s talk about this in general terms of success and goal accomplishment.
Now, let’s look at this in terms of weight loss. People who fake it don’t make it, why? Simple. With weight loss, if you don’t do the work, you don’t get results. There is no faking it. Sure, you can put on your best smile and tell people you’ve lost weight and they will smile, nod, and congratulate you, but reality is a witch who will bite you in the end when you step up on that scale and see that you did not lose a single pound.
I can tell you right now, as someone who lost 45 pounds in 14 weeks, that I have never once faked it. I have made healthy food choices, worked my butt off in the gym and at home with Jillian Michael’s workouts and I have pushed myself to make lifelong changes and live right. And you know what that got me?! Results, but even better, I got my life back. 15 years of pain, depression, and self-hatred have been erased in 14 weeks, people. So if you fake it in diet and exercise, you WON’T make it. Your body knows better, and believe me, it will see through the phoniness.
The same thing goes for Mary Kay. The longer you fake it, the more that people began to see through the phoniness to see you really ain’t making it, because the truth is, in Mary Kay, you will never make it. I have tried again and again to help my aunt see the truth, but she refuses to let go of her pink dream. Even my grandmother, who is naive as can be, even admitted that “well she never really made much money to begin with” Well, duh, grandma, dear. That’s because I have a dirty little secret for ya: MARY KAY IS A PYRAMID SCHEME! My grandmother’s response was, “No, I don’t think it’s a pyramid scheme, I just think she is in a small town with other consultants, so it’s hard to make a sale.”
Well, granny, at least you got that part right. For every zip code, there’s at least 20 consultants. And many of them, like my aunt, are in DIQ. After attending Scaminar one year, my aunt was sure that year was her year. Well, it’s two years later and she’s no longer a DIQ. But is she giving up? Sadly, no. (As a trainer I HATE it when my clients want to give up, but in the case of Mary Kay, this is the one time I want people to give up.)
The cold truth is, if you have to fake it to be successful, baby, that ain’t success. It’s just nothing but fluff. I mean, seriously, look at the meaning of the word “fake” and you will clearly see the writing on the wall.
So I leave you with this thought. In Mary Kay, the ONLY way to “make” is by faking it. You HAVE to lie about your income, all the “free” time you have to spend with your family (I’ll believe that lie right after I endorse high fructose corn syrup as a healthy “food”). In Mary Kay, you have to lie, steal, cheat, back stab, and view women as numbers for your own personal gain. Mary Kay does one thing very effectively, they exploit women in the name of Jesus to turn a profit. And the only way to keep doing that is to get women like you to “fake it till you make it”
So, go, have a rock and roll day, and KEEP IT REAL!
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Great perspective MaryKayExploitsWomen. In reading this, I have come to realize that Mary Kay emphasizes the worst of sales AND the worst in social media. So many young women fake their lives on social media, which creates an environment where many feel less of themselves when they compare their lives to the fakes online.
Mary Kay plays into the exact same fakeness, giving women an excuse to play the game on social media…at the same cost. In Mary Kay they all believe they are the only ones losing money, when in reality everyone is losing money. Just like the young women who feel they are the only ones with an imperfect life, not realizing everyone on social media has their own struggles.
No one likes a fake. And for me, the most fun people to be around are the ones willing to be real without whining about it. Admit that life is hard, but also admit how much you appreciate your friends for loving you anyway. That’s the good stuff. Anyone who can’t handle the real you is not worth the time.
I remind my kids not to idolize famous people. Over time they have watched enough of them crash and burn to actually thank me for that advice. I am no sage. I learned this through the quality people I have met on the earth. It is my hope that everyone is able to find and keep good quality friendships.
But you can’t fake your way into this.
Very well said.
Ah, I see you’ve met my boss, who falls for every weight loss or health gimmick that pops up on Facebook. She actually wanted to be put on Metformin in order to lose a whole bunch of weight in a hurry ::facepalm:: Being a type 2 diabetic who takes Metformin, I had a good time telling her all the fun and exciting gastric side effects one gets from it in order to shut her up about it.
It never seems to occur to the people looking for weight loss shortcuts that if these miracle pills and that melt fat while you sleep and exercise gadgets that promise to get you ripped in 10 minutes a day actually worked, everyone would be thin, fit, and mysteriously tan.
Similarly, it never seems to occur to the huns that if MK really was the path to easy riches, people would be lined up to sign up with them and breaking down consultants’ doors in order to get at those awesome products that sell themselves. Every consultant would be wealthy and living the perfect life.
Weight loss and financial security are actually a really great comparison, because there’s no easy way to either. Faking your way to weight loss by crash dieting and exercising obsessively just leads to burnout, possible injury and sickness, and the weight coming right back on. Faking your way to wealth through the MLM grind will lead to exhaustion, debt, and ruined relationships. You might be able to squeeze into the bikini for a week and lap up the compliments, and you might have the trappings of wealth and success for a few months by maxing your credit cards out, but in the end you’ve got nothing that’s real or lasting.
Well said 👏
We’ve seen enough MLM-hun bankruptcies to see what can happen when faking financial success leads to crushing debt.
Mary Kay and other MLMs are the “Bizarro world” of business opportunities.
Remember all the fake Louis Vuitton?
https://www.pinktruth.com/2019/06/12/how-nsd-dacia-wiegandt-travels/
https://www.pinktruth.com/2023/02/21/fake-wealth-in-mary-kay/
There is a genuine use for “Fake it till you make it” sometimes. In emergencies, I fake a calm confidence I might not be feeling on the inside, because someone has to be the role model and keep others from panicking. I don’t fake supplies I don’t have or skills I don’t have, and do my best to not make the situation worse.
What the MLM fakers do is knowingly or ignorantly lead people into financial disaster.