A Family’s Finances Destroyed by Mary Kay
We have had a number of husbands of Mary Kay consultants and directors participate in the discussion here after being deceived by their wives. There has been financial damage, as well as emotional damage. Here is another.
My wife has been in Mary Kay for 4 years. In that time she has lost over $30,000. I had to remortgage the house to keep her from going bankrupt, but still she’s back at it. Her credit is going to max again in the next few months. This time I will lose the house. I have a good job, but she’s losing it faster than I can make it.
Every MK event I went to was the same, the few husbands that went were all safely muzzled. We all talked about things unrelated till our wives where out of earshot.
Then we’d ask the question, so how are things going for your wife? Then comes the pre-programmed response “she’s holding lots of classes” or “She’s on track for emerald” or “she’s really growing as a person.”
But in that brief moment of eye contact we all know we are liars, in that moment of truth we can all read between the lines. What we really said was “she’s not selling anything” or “she’s buying her way to the top” or “she’s warm stalking everyone we know or meet.”
After that we are pretty quiet, basking in the shared misery and shame of our lies and loss. We tend to not go very often. We collectively despise ourselves.
None of us are in the fog, but we are completely unable to help the one who sleeps beside us even see that there is a fog.
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Ugh, I’m sorry you’re going through this.
Please try to get some financial counseling for yourself to see what steps you can take to protect your own credit (and any minor children) so she can’t apply for cards or loans in your name. Try to divert some money into an account in your name only so you have something to fall back on.
And damn MLM to hell and back for selling dreams and delivering nightmares instead 🤬
What are the statistics of divorce in Mary Kay or any MLM for that matter? There must be a lot. Consultants are trained to stay away from negativity, that includes husbands who question their spending. This man’s story is not a one off. What a sad situation. I hope he can somehow salvage not losing his home. I also believe these men need to speak up. I know they must love their wives and don’t want to risk hurting their feelings or losing them but until one or all of them start telling the truth things will never change. Husbands who perpetuate the lie further proves that MLM is a failed industry.