Written by A Mary Kay Husband
I found Pink Truth searching for a support for Mary Kay husbands. Until I found Pink Truth earlier this year, I thought I was alone. Ironically, while I’m happy I found the site, I wish I never had the need to search for it.
As a husband of a former Mary Kay sales director, for the past four years, my home has been turned into a Pink Hell and, while it is not quite over (I still have $12k worth of credit-card debt to pay off due to the Cult of Mary Kay), my spouse is finally out. [That was the stupidity of the deal I made–I would pay off the debt if she got out.]
The devastation, however, that it has wrought upon our 20+ year marriage will likely be forever lasting–if the marriage even survives. I now am married to a woman that I do not trust, a woman who bartered her integrity by lying and stealing in exchange for the promise of the brass ring and a few baubles.
To date, the best estimate I can gather by looking through financial records is that Mary Kay will have cost my family (actually, me, since I unknowingly foot the bill) over $50,000.
I say ‘unknowingly’ because, until recently my spouse handled our family’s money because I travel and–I trusted. That ended when I caught her in some lies and began looking through our statements. I found that my wife had blown through (either in credit card or checking) $30,000 of our personal finances last year and (at least) $10,000 the year before.
Of course, this was after having maxed out her Mary Kay credit card at over $20,000. It was this initial debt that began raising doubts about the Cult of Mary Kay. Yet, I was told that it was an investment and that she was making money…all, of course a lie. Last year, she made $40,000 in commission–but when I examined it, it actually cost $70,000 to make that–the $30,000 was stolen from our family.
I have been spending a lot of time reading on Pink Truth. A passage from an older article on the site really hit home for me:
Lynne resigned from her directorship soon after, but she stayed on as a consultant. She had over $15,000 in credit card debt and a basement full of unsold products inching closer to their expiration dates. It took three more years to fully extract herself, paint over the pink wall, and get rid of the products. In 2011, her husband filed for divorce, citing as one of the reasons their “different attitudes towards money.” “He meant the whole Mary Kay thing,” Lynne said. “We just never got past it.” But it wasn’t for lack of trying. When her husband first began to talk about leaving, Lynne cleared every last Mary Kay product out of the house, selling much of it at a loss and throwing the rest in the trash. “I didn’t want him to see so much as a bottle of lotion and be reminded,” she said. “I didn’t want to be reminded either.”
Since I was never part of Mary Kay, as most husbands are not, yet have been saddled with the debt (as is the case with assets and liabilities in joint property states), how many other husbands out there have paid off their spouses’ credit card debts?
How many marriages has Mary Kay really ruined since it seems to be nothing more than an organization that preys on women? And, more importantly, how many children are now growing up in single-parent households because of this Pink Cult?