This lies in Mary Kay are not restricted to consultants, directors, and national sales directors. The husbands regularly get in on the action, trying to add an air of legitimacy to the “business.” Sure… if the husband says it’s legit, then it must be! The following untruths come from a letter signed by the husband of a Mary Kay nsd:

• I have never run across a business opportunity such as this where someone can work part-time or full-time, depending on their own wishes, name their own hours so they can be home with children if they desire, spending $100.00 minimum to get into the business and have a 90% guarantee buy-back on all products they purchase thorugh Mary Kay, if returned within the first year of becoming a consultant.

Bad Mary Kay husbands often have the fatal flaws of logic, reason, and common sense.  They’re considered “bad” because they’re not supposed to point out that their wives aren’t making any money (or very little) in Mary Kay. They’re not supposed to complain about the mounting credit card debt. They’re not supposed offer up the logic that it makes no sense to place a $1,000 order just to meet a minimum required for a DIQ to stay in qualification.

How wrong and unsupportive to suggest that Mary Kay is a losing proposition! Anything resembling reason and common sense is the husband’s attempt to hold you back, or not let you have anything for yourself, or control you, or any of a number of sinister-sounding intentions.

Following the receipt of a letter from a long-time Mary Kay sales director to her unit, the husband of a consultant sent this response.

This letter is likely representative of what so many Mary Kay husbands and boyfriends see. That they’re not being “unsupportive.” They’re being realistic and factual. They see and say that Mary Kay is not a viable business opportunity. That isn’t unsupportive. That is love… wanting the best for your partner.

His note:

This comment was left on a thread this morning. Lets see if we can help a concerned brother.

Hi everyone. First I would like to thank you for producing this site and the stream of posts and comments. I would like to see if all of you can provide some advice for how to lift my sister from the fog.

She has been in Mary Kay for around 3 years. Initially, although I knew the business was essentially a pyramid scheme, I was supportive of her for a number of reasons.

Written by The Scribbler

Yes, you have heard this one – many potential recruits have. Oh sure, the recruiter’s not going to come right out and tell you what a Neanderthal the company thinks your hubby is; she’s going to reweave the line – as she’s been taught – into something a little silkier:

“I bet your husband is like mine in that they love us and just want us to be happy. And you know, the typical reaction is “Honey, if that’s what you want to do, go ahead, but just leave me out of it!” Now, don’t you think he trusts your judgment?” (NSD Rena Tarbet)

Written by The Scribbler

This is where the sub-par treatment of husbands begins, friends: with the customers!

I like to call this bunch of statements the Unholy Trinity – three sales objection-overcomers that deal specifically with skinflint spouses. If your husband was in MK, how would you feel knowing that he was telling his clients…

Written by A Mary Kay Husband

I found Pink Truth searching for a support for Mary Kay husbands. Until I found Pink Truth last November, I thought I was alone. Ironically, while I’m happy I found the site, I wish I never had the need to search for it.

As a husband of a former Mary Kay sales director, for the past four years, my home has been turned into a Pink Hell and, while it is not quite over (I still have $12k worth of credit-card debt to pay off due to the Cult of Mary Kay), my spouse is finally out. [That was the stupidity of the deal I made--I would pay off the debt if she got out.]

This story offers the point of view of a Mary Kay husband. While some may say that this schedule is temporary and will end once the wife is done with her Director In Qualification period, that is false. Sales directors are constantly “in DIQ,” always looking for new recruits while barely making minimum wage.

Let me first begin by saying I’m not the average guy. I do laundry, change diapers, clean, cook, do yard work, and I carry my own weight around the house. I am not one who expects my wife to do it all while I sit on my rear with the remote in hand.

With that said, MK is slowly driving a wedge.

Written by NoEscape

In Mary Kay we are told to take short term sacrifices for long term gains. But at whose expense? We are told to be women who find a way and make a way. But at whose expense? We are told to share this “opportunity” with everyone, never prejudge. But at whose expense?

We are crafted into believing that we really do want to be directors, that we LOVE that pink caddy, and our lifetime goal and dream is to become that all-glorified NSD. But at whose expense? We are told we are in business for ourselves but not by ourselves. Someone will be there for us every step of the way. But at whose expense? That we can’t sell from an empty wagon. That the product sells itself. We need to stock up on certain products. But at whose expense?

If your husband dares to question the Mary Kay opportunity, your recruiter wants you to be ready with these answers. Mary Kay doesn’t want something as silly as your husband’s logic to stand in the way of you purchasing inventory!

I feel sorry for the husbands of Mary Kay consultants. Seriously. Very sorry.

Why? Because the minute they figure out what a scam Mary Kay is (which is usually much sooner than the wife figures it out), they are called negative and unsupportive. Uh, no. They are rational, reasonable, and realists. The Mary Kay opportunity is bad, and I don’t think that the husbands should be punished for recognizing that and pointing it out to their wives.